Mentees from WILD’s Leadership Mentoring School on Thursday, the 25th of February 2021 shared their opinions on self-love, citing that lack of self-love often leads to increased suicide cases, and Gender- based violence.
Sharing their thoughts during a Self-Love, Social Capital and Networking mentoring session, one upcoming civil society female leader, Sindiso Dlamini highlighted that most women often suffer in silence in their marriages yet if they practiced self-love, they will be able to overcome the challenges they experience.
“When women make an effort to impress neighbours and pastors yet suffering in silence, this is how we end up having suicide cases, mental related ailments such as anxiety, depression and also GBV deaths,” said Dlamini.
The two hour session which was led by Prisca Dube, who is a human rights lawyer and self-love enthusiast, provided a safe space for women to freely share their concerns and empower one another.
This training was done with an aim of supporting women in all their endeavours and life situations, in an attempt to build their capacity to become strong, confident, effective and efficient and self-aware community leaders.
“Self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth. Self-love means having a high regard for your own well-being and happiness. Self-love means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others. Self-love means not settling for less than you deserve, “ said Dube.
Dube said figuring out what self-love looks like for you as an individual is an important part of your mental health. She added that self-love means different things for different people. Listing the following as key to realising self-love: Talking to and about yourself with love, Prioritizing yourself, Giving yourself a break from self-judgement, Trusting yourself, Being true to yourself, Being nice to yourself, Setting healthy boundaries, Forgiving yourself when you are not being true to yourself and practicing self-care.
“Self-love means accepting yourself as you are in this very moment for everything that you are. It means accepting your emotions for what they are and putting your physical, emotional and mental well-being first,” she said.
Mentees were also trained on the need to show up for themselves and dismantle patriarchy and all the negative energy that is likely to pull women down.
“It is what it is! 24 hours in a day, 168 hours in a week, 8760 hours in a year. We can spend it but not save it. There is no bank for ‘time’ deposit, set goals, evaluate their importance and anticipate hurdles,” said Dube.
In the end, female mentees also benefitted from the importance of building social capital and networking.
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